Best Mattress For Couples

When selecting a new mattress, if you share your bed with a husband, wife, or significant other, you want to make sure that you take certain factors into consideration to purchase the best mattress for couples. 

In addition, if you heavier than normal or significantly heavier than your sleeping partner, you also want to make sure that you make the right choice when shopping for a mattress. 

Most of the time, the best mattresses for couples are the same for single sleepers, except as it may relate to support, motion transfer, sleeping hot, and other factors.

These functional and construction needs which a  mattress should have for couples to experience good sleep are extremely important to get right. 

In our case, I am roughly twice the weight of my girlfriend Kaye, as I am 6’1” and around 230 pounds.  For some mattresses, this causes me to sink down lower than her and for her to “roll” over into me due to the different weight being placed onto the mattress.

We had this problem with cheaper memory foam mattresses during our search for the right bed for us, so we know firsthand how important it is to get a well-built and well-designed mattress, especially a memory foam one which we like personally. 

Lately, however, many good options are on the market to chose from including latex mattresses, latex hybrids, innersrpring / foam hybrids, and all other combinations.

These factors we discuss below are very important when purchasing a mattress, and purchasing a mattress that has the correct characteristics for couples with a higher combined weight will ensure you the best night’s sleep.

Firmness

While firmness is usually a subjective choice based on sleeping styles, in some cases couples tend to require and prefer a mattress on the medium to medium firm side (around a 6-7 on the firmness scale, with 10 being firmest).

These firmer mattresses will hold their shape better and provide lasting support for years to come for the combined weight of a couple.

In addition, as it relates to memory foam mattresses, they tend to soften up over time so choosing a firmer mattress will enable it to break in and become softer over time.

Medium to firm memory foam mattresses tend to offer more consistent support and feel, as the increased densities of the foams or other materials help provide necessary push back to counteract the weight being placed on them. These are usually the best mattresses to select if you are a couple.

Mattress Thickness

Mattress thickness is something that is often very important when selecting a memory foam mattress if your combined weight as a couple is heavier than normal, or if one person is significantly heavier than the other. 

For sleepers under 200 pounds, a 10” mattress is usually sufficient. If you are heavier than this, we suggest you look for a mattress that is at least 12” thick or thicker and combined of a variety of different foam densities. 

The combined weight of couples create a larger amount of pressure on the mattress so more compression support is needed, which many thinner mattresses do not provide.

There are some 10″ mattresses that utilize advanced foams and other design features that improve deep compression support and can allow them to function well for heavier sleepers as well.

However, for the most part it’s best to find a mattress with a thicker profile as it will more likely be able to offer consistent support and deep compression support.

The heavier you are, or the heavier that your combined weight of a couple is, the more important a thicker profile and deep compression support are.

Sinkage / Motion Transfer

Sinkage is quite important for heavier people, as the heavier you are, the more you will compress the foam in your mattress.

As it relates to being part of a couple sharing a mattress with a partner and weigh significantly more than they do, in some cases you may cause them to roll into you due to this pressure difference on the mattress. 

Choosing a well designed memory foam mattress with varying level of foam densities or made of different materials such as latex or hybrid coil designs will help with this, as will selecting a firmer mattress.

Motion transfer is also something to take into consideration as a heavier person sharing a mattress with your partner. Turning over or adjusting your sleep position during the night can often cause significant motion transfer if your mattress does not have motion dampening features or is “bouncier” as many latex mattresses are. 

Choosing a pure memory foam mattress will often alleviate these effects, as they are less springy than a latex or hybrid mattress.

Sleeping Hot

A common complaint from couples that purchase a memory foam mattress is “sleeping hot”.  This term is used for memory foam mattresses that do not ventilate or breathe well throughout the night.

When you are sleeping together with a partner it can get uncomfortable quickly if you don’t have a well designed memory foam mattress that addresses heat buildup.

Two 98 degree bodies under the covers sharing a bed can generate a lot of heat, needless to say!  The more mass, the more heat that is generated. Without a mattress that breathes, you may find yourself waking up in the middle of the night sweating and shedding covers or feeling like you are sticking to the mattress.

Many advanced memory foam mattresses and latex mattresses have largely solved the problems with heat retention using more advanced cooling materials, open cell foam, gels, breathable covers, etc.. 

These are generally a feature of better memory foam mattresses, and often not a feature of inexpensive or basic models. Cheaper memory foam mattresses are more likely to be the type of basic memory foam that absorbs and retains heat.

Latex mattresses by definition don’t trap heat so are a good choice, as well are hybrid coil designs that provide ventilation through the coils in the bed. These are designs we  feel are the best mattresses for couples in our opinion.

Edge Support

Mattresses with strong and stable edges will help prevent any significant sagging or collapsing near the edge when sleeping towards the sides of the mattress as is often the case with couples who each sleep on one side of the bed.  

In some cases, memory foam mattresses struggle with this, especially the softer models which will compress and sag when sitting on the edge or sleeping near the edge. This is usually the case with cheaper memory foam mattresses which don’t have the more advanced foam densities or layers within them.

As mattresses are often used for more than just sleeping at night, such as sitting on the edge or more intimate acts, making sure to have proper edge support if you are a couple can be important.  Choosing a firmer mattress or latex model with good edge support will often alleviate these issues.

Memory Foam Benefits for Couples

Memory foam mattresses are great options for couples, as they are supportive and are known to relieve pressure points by providing even, consistent support that contours to your body, no matter what position you sleep in.

When choosing a memory foam mattress, make sure to take into consideration the material construction, breathability, and cooling materials used in them to ensure you don’t sleep hot. 

Features such as a gel cooling layer, open cell structure, and breathable cover are important things to take into consideration, as is the ability to adjust individual comfort levels which is something only one mattress on the market provides these days (Luxi Sleep). 

In addition, make sure that the firmness and support of the memory foam mattress enable both sleepers to be comfortable sharing a mattress during the night, especially if one of you is heavier than the other.

Summary: Best Mattress for Couples

There are so many factors to consider when shopping for the best mattress for couples. Overall, you’re going to want a mattress that:

  • Is made of a variety of different foams to address each sleeper’s needs
  • Provides a good level of deep compression support for heavier sleeping partners
  • Has minimal sinkage and motion transfer
  • Is a 6-8 on the firmness scale, where 10 is the most firm
  • Sleep cool (due to a combination of construction and materials)
  • Has the ability to adjust each side independently if possible

Our Picks for Best Mattress for Couples

Our picks for the best memory foam or hybrid mattress for couples are:

Luxi Sleep

Helix

Nest Alexander

Loom and Leaf

Zenhaven